Add vue/no-ref-object-destructure rule

[ota-meshi]

This PR adds vue/no-ref-object-destructure rule that reports the destructuring of ref objects causing the value to lose reactivity.

close #1949

[FloEdelmann]

Just a quick look because I don't have time for a full review of this big PR.

[ota-meshi]

Thank you for the quick review! I have changed the part you commented on.

[FloEdelmann]

Thanks, that looks fine now. As noted earlier, I have not looked deeper into the other parts though.

[Tofandel]

This seems to have caused a regression on the vue/no-ref-as-operand rule

import {ref} from 'vue';

const something = false;
let columns;

if (something) {
  columns = ref([1]);
} else {
  columns = ref([2]);
}

This used to be fine, with the new version this causes

 error  Must use `.value` to read or write the value wrapped by `ref()`  vue/no-ref-as-operand
 error  Must use `.value` to read or write the value wrapped by `ref()`  vue/no-ref-as-operand